There are moments in life where it is polite and even expected to show up at least few minutes early–a dentist appointment, a business meeting, a movie theater, or a live performance. A dinner party is not one of those moments. 

In fact, unless someone specifically asks you to come early, if you are attending a gathering at someone’s home, showing up early is considered rude and can actually stress out your host.

If you’ve ever wondered about the perfect time to arrive at someone’s home when invited, here’s what you need to know.

Why You Shouldn’t Arrive Early

Hosts put a lot of effort into making their home welcoming for guests. From cooking and cleaning to setting the mood, they are usually busy right up until the last minute. If you arrive early, you might catch them still running around, which can make things awkward. The last few minutes are normally when the magic happens! 

Why Arriving on Time Isn’t Ideal Either

While being punctual is usually a good thing, arriving exactly at the stated time can still be inconvenient for your host. They might need just a few extra minutes to light the candles, put the finishing touches on a dish, or take a quick breather before guests arrive.

The Best Time to Arrive

So, when should you arrive? The sweet spot is about 10 to 15 minutes after the official start time in the United States. This gives your host a moment to collect themselves and ensures you’re not barging in when they’re still setting up. It’s a small but thoughtful way to show appreciation for their efforts.

What If You’re Running Late?

While being fashionably late might seem acceptable, arriving too late can be just as inconsiderate as arriving too early. You might miss important parts of the gathering, like a special toast, a group activity, or even the best food. If you know you’ll be more than 20 minutes late, a quick text or call is always a good idea.

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Final Thoughts

When invited to someone’s home, timing matters. Showing up a little after the start time—not too early, not too late—shows respect for your host and helps create a smooth, enjoyable experience for everyone. Next time you receive an invite, remember: don’t show up early!
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