Tipping is an essential part of American culture, but figuring out how much to tip can sometimes be confusing. With digital payment systems making tipping more common in places it never was before, knowing the modern etiquette can help you navigate these situations with confidence and grace. This guide breaks down general tipping rules, how much to tip different service providers, and how to best handle those awkward “should I tip?” moments.

The General Amount

Every industry has different customs and expectations, as do different cultures. However, a good rule of thumb is 20%. For a more specific breakdown, these general guidelines ensure it is clear how much you are grateful for the service provided:

Food and Drink Services

• Servers (Sit-Down Restaurants): 15% to 20% of the pretax bill; tip more for outstanding service.
• Takeout and Baristas: A few dollars or up to 15% is considerate; baristas may receive $2 to $3 per order.
• Bartenders: $1 to $2 per drink or 15% to 20% of the total tab.

Transportation

• Rideshare Drivers (Uber/Lyft): 15% to 20% or at least $2 per ride.
• Taxis: 15% to 20% of the fare.
• Valet Services: $2 to $5 when your car is returned.

Personal Services

• Hairdressers & Cosmetologists: 15% to 20% for haircuts, styling, and makeup.
• Massage Therapists: 15% to 20%, unless tipping is not expected in a medical setting.
• Nail Salons: 15% to 20% of the service cost.

Hotels

• Housekeeping: $2 to $3 per day and tip daily, as staff may change. 
• Bellhops: $2 for the first bag, $1 per additional bag.
• Concierge: $5 to $15 for special assistance, but feel free to do more if the concierge went above and beyond, like getting those sold-out concert tickets! 

Other Services

• Food Delivery: $3 to $5 minimum, more for large or complex orders.
• Movers: 15% to 20% of the total moving bill.
• Tour Guides: $7 to $10 per person per day, or 10% to 20% of the tour cost.
• Coat Check: $1 per coat, $2 for larger bags.

How to Approach Unexpected Tipping

Sometimes you may be surprised when asked to tip. Here I go over three common places that you may not anticipate being asked to tip and how best to handle it. 

• Counter Service: Tipping is optional. If a tip jar is present or a digital prompt appears, it’s okay to decline if the service was minimal. However, it is always gracious and appreciated. 
• Retail Stores & Fast-Food Chains: Tipping isn’t necessary, even if there’s a prompt, but these workers appreciate it greatly. 
• Delivery Apps: Some apps automatically add a service fee that doesn’t go to the worker, so double-check before placing your order. 

Specific Situational Tipping

Times and Places Where You Always Need to Tip

• Sit-down restaurants
• Bars and lounges
• Hair and beauty services
• Hotel staff 
• Food delivery services
• Guided tours and personal transportation

Common Tipping Dilemmas and How to Handle Them

• What if I receive bad service? It’s okay to tip on the lower end (15%), but consider speaking with management if you feel like it is necessary. 
• Do I tip if there’s already a service charge? Some restaurants add a service charge, especially for large parties—check to see if it replaces a tip.
• Should I tip for bad takeout service? Not necessarily. If staff went above and beyond, a small tip is thoughtful.

FAQ: Tipping Etiquette

1. Should I always tip 20% at a restaurant?
Not necessarily—15% is the minimum for average service, while 20% is for good service. Exceptional service may warrant more.

2. Is it rude not to tip on takeout orders?
No, but if a staff member went out of their way to help, leaving a few dollars is a nice gesture.

3. What if I can’t afford to tip?
If tipping isn’t financially possible, express gratitude verbally and consider tipping next time. 

4. Should I tip for curbside pickup?
It’s not required, but $2 to $5 is a kind way to acknowledge staff effort.

5. What if the business already adds a service fee?
Check if it covers gratuity—if not, an additional tip may be expected.

Final Thoughts

Tipping is evolving, and while digital tipping requests may feel overwhelming, use your discretion. Stick to standard tipping rates, tip for good service, and don’t feel pressured to tip where it’s unnecessary. With these guidelines, you can tip with confidence and appreciation for those who provide great service. The most important part is that you show appreciation for the service received. 
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